Tuesday, April 19, 2016

Rainbows and Butterflies

 I wrote a long blog and deleted it..... My intent is not to be offensive but to be realistic and vent a bit.  Life is not and cannot be Rainbows and Butterflies. I am frustrated with people wanting (and expecting) everything delivered in a nice package with bow on it.   Now this is ironic as I am constantly lovingly giving my husband grief for his Rhode Island/Engineering/Braman syntax, which is NOT rainbows and butterflies but rapid fire information (at times)  So for me, who is quite sensitive believe it or not, to be bothered it takes a lot.  

In general most people have good intentions, other then on Slowtwitch and a few people I have blocked on FB, so when someone gives you feedback or information take it for what it is knowing they are sharing with you out of good intentions and not likely shouting at you personally... as in NO SHOUTIE CAPS.  The amount of time and energy it takes to make sure "no one's feelings are hurt" takes away from day to day productivity. 

If someone does offend you ,call them on it.  Here is where boys are more successful than girls....  It seems most men can tell another guy, "hey that pissed me off" and they are done with it whereas women calls 3 other women to tell them that so and so said something that they interpreted to be offensive and do they agree?  Okay maybe an exaggeration but you get the point. It can be exhausting.... 

Put on your big girl pants, "lean in" and join the conversation.   It does not always need to be a village! Speak up, say your part and live life.